Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Inappropriate Comments

What seems like many moons ago, when we did round 1 of homeschooling, a teacher's comments/responses to my son played a big part in that.

While witnessing a fight on the playground (a physical brawl), Riley attempted to tell the playground teacher and was answered with "Quit being a tattle-tale."  He was in Kindergarten...5 years old.

A) What is a grown up member of a public school staff doing calling my 5 year old names?
B) The name wasn't even correct...these kids were HITTING each other!!  That's not tattling!!
C) Why was fighting being allowed in Kindergarten!?

That was the straw that broke the camel's back...among other things that just didn't 'feel' right.

So, we homeschooled...while I was running a daycare (totaling 8-10 kids, including my own/day for what seemed like more hours than the mother had them).  Needless to say, that didn't turn out good.

It also didn't help that my family is not pro-homeschool.  I had no support, just criticism, nagging, and the constant issue of always being told that I was going to 'screw up my kids' and they weren't going to learn anything...all while thinking they could just stop by/take Riley for days whenever they wanted because there was no school schedule!!

Then 'it' happened.
Riley hit a roadblock on the pathway to reading.
I couldn't teach this child phonics for the life of me!!
I had been family was right...I screwed up my child.
He couldn't read.

He was 7.
(I have since found out that some boys can't grasp reading until much later...even clear up to ages 11 and 12!!)

We moved, and off to school he went.
They couldn't do anything either. Read the previous post for a more thorough explanation of the public school system's attempts at 'helping' him.

Now, I'm back in that same rut of inappropriate comments being made to or about my children!

The other day, while working on Math, my 10 year old's resource teacher started taunting him about using cubes to help him with his multiplication.  "What are you going to do - carry those cubes around with you for the rest of your life?" 

A) That is borderline bullying to a kid that has spent the entire year dealing with bullying!
B) They've only been working on multiplication for a couple months!
C) ARE YOU 12??  Can't you find something more encouraging to say to your student?

This aggravated me!  I'm not happy about it! But what did I really expect from the teacher that has shown the least amount of effort to control the bullying that he's went through this year than for her to be a bully herself!?

I would tell the principal, but he's not that much better himself!  Just mere weeks ago, during a discussion about my 5 year old's behavior, he made the comment, "Well, I could just tell last year that we were going to have our hands full with that one this year!".  ( 5 year old wasn't even a student there last year.  He'd only seen him for maybe a total of a few minutes every 6 weeks during a meeting.)  

But hey, thanks for judging my kid's character before even getting to know him. Glad to know he stood a chance.  

I guess the point of this post is just - Where do these teachers come off acting like this?  

When did it become okay to call student's names, judge people before meeting them, and embarrass children?

When did it become okay for parents to allow them to do so!?

Well, I, for one, am reclaiming my children back!

Take 2 of homeschooling begins in mere weeks and I am coming back in MISSION MODE!!

I am CONFIDENT this time!
Something I lacked before!
And I will stand my ground!
And I will NOT let ANYONE to break that confidence again!

I'm in it for the long haul this time, baby!

In two weeks...I set my children FREE!

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